Fight Club came out at a time in my youth that I was at a turning point in my life. In 1999, I was a 17-year-old kid who had just started his senior year of high school. In my impressionable youth, I had no real direction. My friends were all planning their college path and I was kind of just floating through life.
What I took away from it in 1999 is certainly different than what I take from it today. Let’s take a moment and look at the rules of Fight Club and how they apply to my adult life.
1. Do not talk about Fight Club.
Your joys and struggles will only be appreciated and understood by a small group of people. While it may feel good to brag or complain at every chance you get, it will not help in the end.
2. Do not talk about Fight Club.
Giving away too much personal information is a sure way to see that information used against you. Be mindful of how much you share and who you share it with.
3. Someone says “stop,” goes limp, or taps out – the fight is over.
You have to know when you’ve won – it isn’t always obvious. But if you don’t know when to stop fighting, you’ll go too far and miss your opportunity to relish the victory.
4. Only two guys to a fight.
Deal with your problems one at a time. We all have more than enough problems, don’t let them all gang up on you and make the world seem hopeless.
5. Only one fight at a time.
We’re all in this together. You can’t help your community if you’re busy in your own struggle. Sometimes we have to set our personal problems aside to focus on something more important.
6. No shirt, no shoes.
Be sure you have the right gear for life, but nothing in excess. Utility minimalism helps with an uncluttered life.
7. Fights will go on as long as they have to.
You have to be prepared to go the distance, no matter how far it is. We can give up if we don’t have the endurance, but that means you won’t see the end result of your hard work.
8. If this is your first night, you have to fight.
When you’re done running from your problems, it’s time to face them head on. You can’t just hand them off to someone else to deal with.